The Jude Thaddeus Program - Chapter 8

Mining for the Truth

To live with the same perspectives that we had years ago, will not only cause unhappiness, but it limits the way you adapt and deal with things in the future. Fully developed people do not use the same coping mechanisms that children use to deal with problems. Those who hang onto coping methods from childhood will always be in a state of dissatisfaction. 

Relationships are the fabric that holds life together. Understanding that people need each other, and that we are all inherently connected, is a fundamental truth that people seem to forget or overlook. Many times our secrets combined with substance abuse pull us further and further from our families, friends, and eventually from ourselves. We become mentally and emotionally detached from where we should be and who we are. Close relationships with family and friends become almost nonexistent. Even if you are still around people, you can be so closed off emotionally that it is impossible for others to know you or deal with you at all.

Fortunately, all people and societies are connected through commerce, governments, good will, religions, and of course, love. Even people in the most primitive of cultures work together as teams, from hunting and farming societies to the most complex of all human societies, the modern metropolitan city. All cultures function relatively efficiently because the participants play various roles and work together. Generally, the happiest people are those who voluntarily decide to spend their time participating and creating good for the benefit of the others in society. They are active in their communities, in their families, and with their friends.  

The question is: what sets these people apart from those who seem to be doing the same things but are unhappy? The answer: those who have genuine happiness do good acts without regard for reward or personal gain. Many simply enjoy the good feeling of being a part of things and seeing what they can contribute. It brings them joy. They love their careers and their friends and families. 

On the other hand, substance abusers (as well as anyone unwilling to adapt to life’s natural challenges) slowly drop out of the social scene and become islands of despair. They work contrary to society’s rules and the Laws that govern love and happiness. 

Have you ever sat back and wondered how and why happy people seemingly go through life charmed? How do they do it?  Why can’t you live in this blessed manner? These are questions most people have asked themselves at one time or another. The truth is there is no need for jealousy if you are willing to care about others in the same manner as secure, happy people do. 

We know how hard this can be. You are accustomed to running, finding the holes in society’s rules, and planning failure.  If ever there was a time to let go of this attitude, it is now. You are on the verge of building a plan that will get you out of this mess you have created once and for all.

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